Waking up every morning with the ‘get your head in the game’ mindset is hard. Soooooo hard.
Before I came home to Swansea from being at university in Bristol, I was dreading it. For three years I devoted every single thing I had to my ‘new life’ in Bristol. I adapted to a new environment, progressed personally and professionally, and learned how to drill it into my head that it is so important every day to wake up feeling confident that you can kick ass, even if deep down you really feel like you can’t.
So here are my top 10 tips to ensure that every day of your exciting or mundane life you stay on top of the world, or at least get there eventually:
- Develop positive thinking – Wow, the importance of this is crazy! I feel like so much emphasis is always put on how everyone needs to be constantly happy and positive otherwise they’re a bad person or something. That’s not the case. Thinking positive changed my life because with positive thoughts comes positive attitude, positive outlook and shortly after, a positive life.
- Exercise – When we exercise we release the same endorphins we release during sex, so if that’s not enough to get you to the gym then I don’t know if anything can/ Exercising reduces our perception of pain, and triggers those feelings of positivity in our bodies that all of us want to feel 24/7. These so-called happy hormones make me feel on top of the world when I feel at the bottom, so I know they’ll make you feel the same way too.
- Kindness – I find being kind so rewarding. You could be kind to someone and then days or weeks later be told how much of a thoughtful person you are for extending your help or advice to a friend, family member or colleague. Being told that you are a good person will reassure you that you are a good person, and this will make you extremely happy. I know it.
- Eliminate the non-essential – Because who likes negative vibes? NO-ONE. If doing something or associating with someone negative is raining on your parade, cut all ties. There are so many long-term effects of negative angst and stress, which definitely do not help us achieve our goal of feeling on top of the world. If it’s non-essential, it’s non-progressive, and we all know that progression is the first step on the path to success.
- Create a vision for 10 years today – We all love the thought of a better title, bigger paycheck, but how can we think that we are going to get to that stage of our lives if we fail to even turn it into a vision? Even if you consider yourself to be a person who completely lacks confidence, I can assure you that you have enough self-worth to be able to get to the place you dream to be if you just picture yourself there. Work for it and it will come to you. Also remember that if you never do, it will never get done, and if you never ask, the answer will always be no.
- Short-term strategy and goals – Number 6 is one of my favourites. Creating a short-term strategy and goals doesn’t mean that you need to tell yourself that you need to lose 2 stone in 2 weeks or become the president of the United States within the next 8 years. An example is ‘by the end of the week I want to have gone to the gym at least 5 times, scheduled 2 blog posts, and applied for 3 jobs.’ Write lists. Buy a planner. Stick a piece of paper on your fridge. Write on your hand. It works!!!!
- Mentors who will inspire and support you – For as long as I remember I have always been keen to learn, whether that’s self-learning or being taught something new by someone or something else (like a book). Your mentor doesn’t have to be a professional, because you can also place your ‘mentor title’ on a member of your family, for example, at work I consider my manager to be my mentor, because she’s providing me with invaluable advice and guidance that I know I couldn’t get anywhere else. Whereas at home, my grandfather is my mentor, who provides me with support and gives me advice on what potential goals I could set for the benefit of my own future.
- Take risks – I don’t know if it’s the feeling of adrenaline or what, but risk-taking really makes me feel on top of the world. Taking risks or doing scary things can lead to finding meaning in life, and when you do this you start to accept yourself and embrace change. Taking risks will also allow you to live in the moment, and I personally think that this is what life is all about. ENJOYING.
- Ignore competition – If you’re friendly, you’ll have no trouble with switching your negative perception of potential completion to a positive perception. People tend to forget that we can learn a lot from our competition, and just because they’re seen as our competition it doesn’t always mean that they’re going to achieve more than we will. Focus on YOU, and you’ll be on top of the world in no time.
- Don’t regret – Regret can cloud our minds and get in the way of letting us think that if we put our mind and abilities to something, we can get shit dooooooone. Mistakes are part of our nature, so if we make them, so what. There’s always room for improvement, isn’t there?! JFK once said that “those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.” We don’t want to miss out on that, do we?
I didn’t think that coming home, I could be happy. I kept thinking ‘Swansea is shit’, ‘there’s no opportunity’, and ‘I’m never going to get to where I want to be in life’. I was wrong because now every morning when I drive to work I just think about what a person can achieve in a day, no matter where they are. If you achieve a lot in a day, just imagine what you can achieve in a month or a year.
If you have any tips for feeling on top of the world or want to give me more advice on what I can do to improve my mantra, let me know!
Thanks for reading, Rebecca x